An
Experiment in Gift Economy and Reciprocity
By Lorraine Leslie
September 6, 2014
In recent years when I have yard sales, I always put
out several boxes of things that I give away for free as gifts. They are usually items that are little worn,
well used or kind of funky or out of date, but are still useful. I don’t want to throw them away or donate
them and I feel weird putting a price on them, so I gift them to people
instead. The free items are always a big
hit. These are my gifts to total
strangers and people honestly seem to appreciate them. People open up to you when you give them
something for free. They feel a sense of
gratitude.
And also at the end of every yard, garage or tag
sale I have, what hasn’t sold by the end, I will offer it to people for
free. The surprise on their faces when
you gift it to them is priceless. The
joy for me is in the giving. It is
payment enough. Money is a form of
currency or energy. When you give stuff
away for free a different kind of energy is exchanged, it’s an opening of
oneself. People open up to you with a
smile, they tell you stories and maybe even share a laugh with you. I feel this amazing energy pass between me
and the person I am gifting to. It’s
lovely. When I give freely the universe responds
in kind. People then want to give back
in any small way they can.
Years ago before money, people bartered services in
exchange for the products and services of others. Now almost everything we need to survive in
our society is exchanged with a currency we call money. Basically money is worthless paper that we put
a value on because we are told that it is worth something by the people that
print it and control the world that we live in.
We work hours every day to acquire this paper so we can buy food to eat,
clothes to wear and to pay our monthly rent or mortgage so we don’t have to
sleep out on the streets.
When we take money out of the equation we liberate
ourselves and something really special happens when you gift or barter an
item. Now normally, when I have free
items to give away at my sales, I give them away freely and I ask for nothing
in exchange. I am usually rewarded with
a “thank you” and a smile and a feeling that the person walking away with the
freely given item is genuinely grateful to be receiving it. That gives me great joy and pleasure, but
today it was different.
Today I participated in a “moneyless yard sale” put
on by Jerry Wellman of Axle Contemporary Gallery at the CCA on Old Pecos Trail
in Santa Fe, NM. I set up a table, a
blanket and had several boxes placed on the ground with items, not for sale,
but to be offered as “free” or moneyless. The idea of the yard sale was that no money
could be exchanged. So when no money can
be exchanged for the items for sale, how are people to “pay” for them? What can a person do to acquire these things?
A person has to get creative. They have to work out
a form of exchange or trade that both parties can agree upon. Not many people today have a special skill,
service or product that they can exchange.
I was willing to except anything anyone offered in the way of exchange. I turned no one down or refused any offers as
long as there was an exchange of energy between me and the other person. I
remained open to anything and I received in abundance. I felt my heart open to the people who
approached the “free” items I had for trade.
The handmade signs taped to my table said “Free” and
indicated that no money was to be accepted.
It was by trade or exchange only.
Like I said before, the key to my successful and lucrative day was to
remain open to all offers and to not have any attachment to the items offered
or to place any monetary value on them.
In my mind, everything on that table was a gift to whoever chose to walk
up to my table and wanted something. It
was like Christmas in September and I was Ms. Santa Claus.
Here are the trades that I took in exchange for my
items:
I received quite a few hugs which were nice. One of the first people I traded with, a
lively woman danced a shuffle ball change for me. Another lady sang with her dog. Many people sang me songs. One guy even serenaded me with the Elvis Presley
song “Love Me Tender.” I was given a small piece of homemade art. Another person traded a sun wind chime that
they had recently acquired from a trade with another person.
I received many handshakes. One man danced to the Tom Jones’s song, “It’s Not Unusual.” I was gifted a wink and a smile by one happy women. I received many smiles, mostly from young children. A sweet lady who lost her mother several years ago and carries a prayer with her to remember her mother by, read me that beautiful prayer and gave me a hug, we then cried. I exchanged a lot of high five’s and fist bumps with people; these were mostly from teenage boys. One gal whistled “I’ll Fly Away,” and then came back later to play a folk song on her mandolin for me.
I accepted a beautiful “patty pan squash” for trade from a couple who grew it in their garden; it was wrapped lovingly in a wax paper bag. I received scented bath salts, a pair of dangling earrings and a huge coffee mug that fits comfortably in my hand for trade. One lady I traded with gave me a small sealed mystery gift envelope filled with a piece from a crystal chandelier and handmade love inspired stickers. I was told many jokes. An older lady recited me several clever fortune cookie fortunes. I was invited to an art show by a gal who I took some maps from me and was inspired to make art from the maps. I was told a few funny stories.
A man made me a peace crane for trade, he told me he always carries origami paper with him everywhere he goes. One gal hooped with her brightly colored rainbow hula hoop for me, she was quite entertaining. I received a 2 minute Spanish lesson from a guy from Peru and was given a handmade poetry chapbook by a woman dressed from head to toe in purple. The paper she used to create her chapbook was purple as well. I also gave away many items for free, especially to children and just because I wanted to.
I received many handshakes. One man danced to the Tom Jones’s song, “It’s Not Unusual.” I was gifted a wink and a smile by one happy women. I received many smiles, mostly from young children. A sweet lady who lost her mother several years ago and carries a prayer with her to remember her mother by, read me that beautiful prayer and gave me a hug, we then cried. I exchanged a lot of high five’s and fist bumps with people; these were mostly from teenage boys. One gal whistled “I’ll Fly Away,” and then came back later to play a folk song on her mandolin for me.
I accepted a beautiful “patty pan squash” for trade from a couple who grew it in their garden; it was wrapped lovingly in a wax paper bag. I received scented bath salts, a pair of dangling earrings and a huge coffee mug that fits comfortably in my hand for trade. One lady I traded with gave me a small sealed mystery gift envelope filled with a piece from a crystal chandelier and handmade love inspired stickers. I was told many jokes. An older lady recited me several clever fortune cookie fortunes. I was invited to an art show by a gal who I took some maps from me and was inspired to make art from the maps. I was told a few funny stories.
A man made me a peace crane for trade, he told me he always carries origami paper with him everywhere he goes. One gal hooped with her brightly colored rainbow hula hoop for me, she was quite entertaining. I received a 2 minute Spanish lesson from a guy from Peru and was given a handmade poetry chapbook by a woman dressed from head to toe in purple. The paper she used to create her chapbook was purple as well. I also gave away many items for free, especially to children and just because I wanted to.
The energy I received from people was priceless. Everyone walked away from my table happily
satisfied with their trades and exchanges.
I too felt so richly rewarded. When
you give freely, you receive in abundance.
I felt joyful and my soul felt well fed.
My heart was wide open. Every
time I give freely I feel this way.
Exchange using money as currency is never as sweet or satisfying. The
gentleman at the table next to me was so excited and inspired by my energy that he
gave me a gift of this groovy meditation seat.
I asked him what he would like in return. He said nothing. I felt I had to reciprocate in some way so I
randomly played him a tune on the jaw harp I keep in my knapsack. I have had it since I was a kid and have
become quite accomplished on the thing.
He laughed and took a photo of me playing it. He also got a real kick out of the crazy
painted and patched jeans I was wearing and asked if he could take a photo of
them as well.
While walking to the car on my way home I found a
dollar bill on the ground. It had fallen
in front of me as if from the sky. I
asked the person who dropped it if he wanted it back. He said, “No, it’s a gift.” It was one of the 1500 dollar bills Axle
Contemporary was freely giving away around town as part of their Dollar
Distribution experiment in gift economics.
More information below from Axle Contemporary:
Dollar Distribution
Dollar Distribution is a financial intervention by
Matthew Chase-Daniel. Crowd sourced
fundraising has yielded 1,500 individual dollar bills which will be left on the
streets of Santa Fe from August 20 – September 15. The bills will be distributed at random
throughout the city, one at a time left on street corners and sidewalks, on
floors of local businesses, in shirt pockets at clothing stores, in front yards
and countless locations.
Photos of bills in the in locations can be seen on the Twitter feed: https://twitter.com/DOLLARxDOLLAR
and on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/axlecontemporary
and their website: http://axleart.com/index/Home.htmlPhotos of bills in the in locations can be seen on the Twitter feed: https://twitter.com/DOLLARxDOLLAR
and on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/axlecontemporary
Some photos from the "Moneyless Yard Sale"
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| The stuff I was trading/bartering. No money was exchanged. |
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| My List of Trades |
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| This gal played a song on her mandolin for me in exchange for items I was trading. She played for the woman next to me first, and after that it was my turn to be serenaded with song. |
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| Axle Contemporary's gallery van. It was around here that I found on the ground, one of the free dollar bills that was part of their month long dollar distribution. |
Below is a link to Daniel Suelo's blog. He is a dude that I have been following for a few years who has lived without using money since 2001. He's amazing and a real inspiration. If Daniel found a dollar bill on the ground he would probably give it away, he is that hardcore about not using money.
